Moving Through Sadness During Divorce
Divorce is an individual experience. While it happens all too often and many people in your life may have advice to help prepare you, the truth is that it is entirely possible your experience will be very different. Of the many things you may experience during divorce, sadness is a natural, common feeling. Because this is so, it is important to promote self-care throughout the process-before, during, and after the divorce.
The Source
Sadness during divorce has several potential sources.
You’re experiencing significant loss. When you married, you probably believed, at the time, that it would last. You made someone your partner and shared a life with them. Now, those things are changing, or going away. You no longer have that partner and many, possibly all, of the elements of the life you shared. It is natural to be saddened by this.
It is a big, frightening change. Change of any kind can be scary. There is always an amount of uncertainty, and having something you once believed would last for life come to an end only exacerbates any fear of the unknown; you may be wondering if your life will change for the better. All of this can result in many feelings, including sadness.
Your outlook may be different. It is normal for a recently divorced person to wonder whether they will be able to love, or commit again. They may wonder if they’ll find it again, as it seems so very hard to find and keep. These sad thoughts are natural.
The range of emotions you may feel in a divorce are likely normal and quite healthy. Whether you received the Dissolution of Marriage notice, or you instigated the process, the validity of your feelings does not change. You also cannot always control your reaction to things in the divorce, nor the feelings you will have.
Process the Sadness
One of the things you can do to help move through sadness during divorce is allow yourself to feel it, to process it. When you allow yourself to feel the sadness, you move closer to recovery. You give the feeling a chance to pass and eventually end. Though it may, at times, feel never-ending, it will not last forever.
Of course, you cannot be sad all the time. There are times when you must be calm and focused. You need to be able to process details of the divorce, have meetings with your attorney and others, and if you have children, you must be there for them, too. That is why there are outlets to help you experience and deal with your sadness.
You can spend some time alone to feel and express your emotions if that is what works for you. You can meditate, rest, exercise, and anything else that helps you move through your feelings. Some people need help, however. In this case, it is important to know that there is no shame in asking for help, whether it’s personal or professional.
You have a lot to manage in a divorce. Let us help. At Miller Law, we take help you take care of the divorce process so that you can spend more time focusing on other important things, like yourself and your family.
The Source
Sadness during divorce has several potential sources.
You’re experiencing significant loss. When you married, you probably believed, at the time, that it would last. You made someone your partner and shared a life with them. Now, those things are changing, or going away. You no longer have that partner and many, possibly all, of the elements of the life you shared. It is natural to be saddened by this.
It is a big, frightening change. Change of any kind can be scary. There is always an amount of uncertainty, and having something you once believed would last for life come to an end only exacerbates any fear of the unknown; you may be wondering if your life will change for the better. All of this can result in many feelings, including sadness.
Your outlook may be different. It is normal for a recently divorced person to wonder whether they will be able to love, or commit again. They may wonder if they’ll find it again, as it seems so very hard to find and keep. These sad thoughts are natural.
The range of emotions you may feel in a divorce are likely normal and quite healthy. Whether you received the Dissolution of Marriage notice, or you instigated the process, the validity of your feelings does not change. You also cannot always control your reaction to things in the divorce, nor the feelings you will have.
Process the Sadness
One of the things you can do to help move through sadness during divorce is allow yourself to feel it, to process it. When you allow yourself to feel the sadness, you move closer to recovery. You give the feeling a chance to pass and eventually end. Though it may, at times, feel never-ending, it will not last forever.
Of course, you cannot be sad all the time. There are times when you must be calm and focused. You need to be able to process details of the divorce, have meetings with your attorney and others, and if you have children, you must be there for them, too. That is why there are outlets to help you experience and deal with your sadness.
You can spend some time alone to feel and express your emotions if that is what works for you. You can meditate, rest, exercise, and anything else that helps you move through your feelings. Some people need help, however. In this case, it is important to know that there is no shame in asking for help, whether it’s personal or professional.
You have a lot to manage in a divorce. Let us help. At Miller Law, we take help you take care of the divorce process so that you can spend more time focusing on other important things, like yourself and your family.
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